First Impressions - Bait For Your Date

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There's something in the air...
That first look, or simple hello, that point when the stars align and your hearts start pumping... is it magic, or just baloney? Well there's no denying that most people can't help but judge a book by it's cover, so don't sweat it. My number one rule on first impressions is to not build up your expectations of how any first encounter will unfold. Too many times we let our fantasy world take over reality, and we have our introductions rehearsed, both for yourself and the other person. Leaving yourself open is the key here; if you don't put yourself or the other person up against a bar they can't measure up to, then you leave yourself open to many possibilities. Your first impression becomes more reliable in this situation, because you were open to all they had to offer.

The Best Me
Listening to the other person openly is a good first step, but you want to make sure that you leave an impression as well. Be yourself (always!), but be your best self. This means that no matter how bad a day it's been, you wipe the slate clean when you meet someone new. That doesn't imply that you keep it clean forever, but try and put yourself in the other persons shoes. Do you want to talk to a person who is bringing you down, or seems withdrawn for some unknown reason, or do you want to meet someone who can give a little bit of themselves. Those days that you feel you have a little rain cloud over your head, share it with a friend if you must, not with the person you sat next to at the bar.

"You think I suck... anything I can do?"
Getting past a bad first impression takes a little work, but it's not always impossible. If you feel you were at your best, then cut your losses and move on. But if you feel like you didn't put your best foot forward, then give it another shot. Persistence is the name of the game - remember no means no but maybe could be your ticket! Chances are, that first impression has you stereotyped in some way or another, so break the mold. If you came on too strong, then tone it down and give them the more gentle you. If you started crying in your drink first time round, then do something that reveals your sense of humor. As long as the other person is willing to turn the page and look a little deeper, you'll be in good shape. And if they're not, well that tells you something about them, now doesn't it! I know I wouldn't want to be with someone who can't change their opinion given new facts to consider.

Good luck, and remember to keep cool.

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