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When it's time... it's time.
Every relationship has it's ups and downs. But sometimes living with the downs just doesn't seem worth it anymore. So, it's time to break up, right? Maybe... maybe not. This is soul searching time, and nobody can give you a simple yes or no answer to this one. The main thing here is to think about how much the person means to you, how life will change once you're no longer together, and how mush more of yourself are you willing to give of yourself. A lot of people say they are going to break up , even if there is nothing really wrong, because they don't 'feel' in love anymore. This is one of the situations where caution is warranted. I feel true love is an action (don't get dirty-minded on me now), and in this situation you probably are not feeling love, because you are not 'doing' love. Ask yourself when is the last time you did something for the other person before you end something that otherwise is a good thing.

I can become invisible.
You've done your soul searching, and you know it's time to end things. From personal experience, don't try the old disappearing act. Yes the person will probably eventually get the point, but getting closure is important, both for the dumper and dumpee. At the very least write a note or pick up the phone, but if you want to do it right you'll have to face the music and do it face to face. You owe it to yourself to give that person a look in the eye before you tell them it's over... you might realize at that instant that you don't want it to end yet. If you go through with it, then the person gets to see how you feel about the situation, and vice versa. These are the times when we grow as people, as we learn to accept our failures, and celebrate our successes. Be honest (but not brutally honest), and walk away without leaving any false expectations.

One is the Loneliest Number
It's done, settled, the old ball and chain has been released and you are on your own. You'll probably be celebrating your independence for a while, but there will undoubtedly will be a void in your life as well. Couples grow co-dependent on each other in many aspects of their lives, and the longer the relationship, the stronger these ties will grow. Learning to live single again will be hard, but make sure to give yourself enough time to let those wounds heal. Don't run out and find someone new right away... it will be like trying to fit a round peg into a square hole. In time you'll be ready to get back in the game, and you'll be rich with perspective and experience. Good Luck!

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